WHAT I'VE LEARNED FROM TRANSFORMATION
Originally published on January 24, 2021.
10 KEY POINTS THAT I’VE RECORDED EVERY SINGLE TIME.
1) They’re worth it, taking the chance and risk to become more aligned with soul path, true self, higher self - worth it every time.
I truly believe there is a single, brilliant moment where one realizes that transformation is needed. It could be the result of many different events or thoughts, but the “-A-ha” time comes and one says “Something needs to change.” I have personally noticed that transformations often require more than one single change, and instead a variety of shifts (little and big).
Taking the leap can be extremely terrifying, but when I look back at where I was before the transformation, it has absolutely been worth it every time. If I hadn’t taken those risks in my life, I wouldn’t of gotten education in different areas of my passions. I wouldn’t of experienced every great thing and every damn challenge in college, and I wouldn’t of met people who changed my life. If I didn’t find the courage to keep my feet moving forward, I would still be in an abusive relationship and I wouldn’t of owned and celebrated who truly I was inside. If I wouldn’t of stepped up to the call within my spiritual path I believe my life wouldn’t be as exciting and interesting, that it would be sad, and I certainly wouldn’t of taken the leap to finally launch Mourning Light Divination.
2) Takes daily patience.
Transformation, change, and transition do not happen over night. Sometimes we’re in a year + long cycle, learning and flushing out old people, patterns, behaviors, habits, beliefs, etc that don’t serve us anymore. It takes time and in so, daily patience. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time.
3) Takes daily, weekly, monthly uncomfortableness (sitting with this, almost embracing it).
Just as it takes daily patience, it also takes sitting with uncomfortableness and learning how to be in uncomfortable. To sit with it and know that although it’s not the most enjoyable thing, that you will survive it.
4) There has to be some fun.
At least in my own case, any type of transition is usually really serious. Due to the nature of them, they can be real difficult, so it is imperative we find and incorporate fun and joy into the process. Do you know what brings you joy? Or what you find fun? Do you secretly love cheesy country music too? Listening to upbeat, sometimes awful, music on the radio really helps me get out of my stubborn head. Talking with friends, reminiscing on crazy times we experienced together and inside jokes. Watching insanely funny tv shows, movies, or videos. Reading or re-reading a book I love. Sometimes I ask myself, “What did I find fun before this transition?” This question helps me analyze if I’ve forgotten something I love through the process or if I need to reach out to friends and find some new fun things to do.
5) A support system is crucial: the one friend, friends, parent,, therapist, teacher, spiritual guide.
Some type of support system is so important to this process. Who can be that someone who will listen to you talk about the same thing everyday for as long as it takes for you to continue moving forward? Ask friends to check up on you, schedule weekly dates to talk with a friend, loved one, or parent, find affordable counseling and work with a trained therapist or counselor (there’s more of it out there than you might think!), ask your ancestors for support and your guides to show up extra during this time. Your spiritual team is with you always. Who else has got your back?
In Colorado? Check out People House or Denver Affordable Counseling for more affordable counseling services.
6) Shedding is hard work, it’s death work, it’s self love work, it’s holy work. Your process from the beginning, middle, and end is sacred.
Compassion for self during your process is incredibly helpful. You will make mistakes, you might feel confused, this might be the hardest, greatest work you’ve ever done and ever will in your life - that is huge. Take care of yourself during this process, congratulate yourself for taking the leap and doing what you must. You are HOLY. You are SACRED. You are showing up for yourself AND others this way. You might feel like you’re saving your self and your life. I’ve felt that during almost every transformation. It was take the leap or nothing else. You may not know or see it, but there are people around you who are PROUD of you. All of your ancestors and all of your parts and selves are PROUD of you.
7) You actually aren’t alone, there are people all over the world taking the leap into their shadowy depths to be reborn, to find home again. The more I talk about it, the more I find common threads in all people.
I have found talking about my transformations extremely helpful. Through talking about then, I learned that more people than I ever knew are going through similar changes and experiences all the time. Maybe joining a group or creating a circle of people who are going through similar changes could be helpful, to give space to share stories, heartaches, defeats, and celebrations. We have no idea what someone is going through unless they tell us - breaking the barrier and talking about our challenges, grief, or hardships helps others open up and also know that they aren’t alone.
8) Water is a helpful tool for transformation.
Crying, baths, showers, hot springs….however you can get some water works happening or water onto your body, into your life - do it. Things are often getting cleared that you either can’t see or don’t even understand yet. It can be swift and it can be slow, but water is a purifier, it is liquid magic, it is needed for us to live and sustain, it is a great friend during this time of your life.
9) The ego will most likely come in and try to derail the show.
Change can bring up old judgments, insecurities, patterns, and behaviors. The ego likes to come in and feed these. Do you have something that helps smooth these thoughts patterns out when they come up? Maybe it’s exercise, maybe it’s hitting up your community and cheerleaders, or journaling, a nice foot bath, standing under the shower and feeling the water against your skin, or maybe it’s cooking or baking. Having something that brings you back to your true self can be helpful in finding grounding again.
P.S Also, we can absolutely tell the ego to sit outside when we need some space.
10) You are capable to not only get through it, but to get through it brilliantly.
Your transformation is allowed to be and entail anything you say. Perfection is a myth. You may experience a range of emotions during your transformation and not only it that okay, it is part of this holy work. Our grief, anger, fear, and excitement are all sacred and have things to teach us. There will be days where you feel like you made the right decision for you and other days it might not feel so simple but, the soul knows the truth. As we learn from and peel back other emotions, the soul rests all knowing, in trust, underneath it all. Tap in and feel your truth, gorgeous soul. You’ve got this.
Transition and change can be extremely hard and trigger old behaviors and patterns or create new unhealthy ones. We may not even quite know how to support ourselves or others and that is okay, learning is part of the process. If you or someone you know needs extra support and care the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours a day. Listed below is also a link to a website that contains many different kinds of helpful hotlines depending on the situation/what needs tender care.
Hotlines:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish.
List of many help hotlines pertaining to situation: www.pleaselive.org/hotlines
Text Crisis Line: www.crisistextline.org
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Thank you for doing this work, gorgeous souls.
Mourning Light Divination always recommends working with a trained mental health professional, especially during times of transition, change, and turbulence. Mourning Light Divination, LLC only provides tools and is not the outcome.
May you be well and safe.